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Winning Arguments vs. Winning People

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“Father God, please guide me as I write this article based on Your Word. Help me to write this to glorify You, and let Your words bring clarity to those who seek You. May Your truth help people discern and embrace correct beliefs. I pray and seek everything in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.”

Hi there my Brothers and Sisters in Christ! I have always been passionate about sharing the Gospel, driven by a deep desire to see others come to know the love of Christ. This fervour, however, often led me to lose good friends. My zeal to convince others of my faith sometimes resulted in heated arguments and strained relationships. I felt an overwhelming urge to make others see the truth as I saw it. But God, in His wisdom and grace, has been working on my heart, transforming my approach. Now, even when opportunities arise, I choose to share my personal experience with God and allow the other person to form their own opinions. The urge to “win” the argument is gone. I believe that God uses me in His own way, and that assurance gives me peace. Knowing that I have done my part, I can rest in the belief that God will do the rest.

Diving in

In our quest to share the Gospel and defend our faith, it can be easy to fall into the trap of wanting to win arguments. However, God has been teaching me that winning people is far more important than winning arguments. He has been impressing upon my heart that it is okay to lose an argument, to say, “You could be right, and I could be wrong.” The pride within us often prevents us from pursuing and connecting with others. When we work for God’s kingdom, it is okay to lose arguments because our goal is not to win debates but to win hearts.

The Danger of Winning Arguments

When engaging in discussions about faith, especially with those who hold different beliefs, it is easy to become defensive and argumentative. This can lead to a hardened heart, both in ourselves and in the person we are speaking with. The Bible warns us about the dangers of pride and contentious behaviour. Proverbs 13:10 says, “Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice.” Our pride can create barriers that prevent meaningful dialogue and understanding.

Imagine having a discussion with a friend who has a different faith or opinion about God. Without common ground, the conversation can quickly escalate into an argument. Often, this results in each party walking away with their positions hardened, saying, “Let me have my faith, and you have yours.” In such scenarios, we inadvertently do the enemy’s work by fostering division and hardening hearts, which is exactly the opposite of what God desires from us.

The Example of Jesus’ Humility

Jesus exemplified humility in His interactions with others. Philippians 2:5-8 instructs us, “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!”

Jesus, though fully God, chose to humble Himself and serve others. He did not seek to win arguments but to win hearts. When faced with opposition, He responded with grace and love. For example, in John 4, Jesus speaks with the Samaritan woman at the well. Instead of arguing about religious differences, He gently reveals His identity as the Messiah, leading her to believe and share the Good News with her community.

Humility Over Eloquence

God does not seek eloquent speakers but humble hearts willing to do His bidding. In 1 Corinthians 1:26-29, Paul reminds us, “Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him.”

God often chooses those who seem unqualified by worldly standards to carry out His work. It is not our eloquence or ability to win arguments that matters, but our willingness to serve with humility. By being humble, we allow unbelievers to see the consistency and logic in our faith through our actions and attitudes. It all starts with putting ourselves in their shoes.

Empathy and Understanding

To effectively share the Gospel, we must approach others with empathy and understanding. Imagine someone coming to you and saying, “Your faith is wrong.” It would be natural to feel offended and to harden your heart against anything that person has to say. In the same way, when we approach others with an argumentative spirit, we close the door to meaningful dialogue and relationship-building.

James 1:19-20 advises, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” By listening more and speaking less, we open the door to understanding and connection.

Winning Hearts for God’s Kingdom

Winning hearts is ultimately God’s work. We are called to live in a way that reflects Christ’s love and humility, showing others through our actions that Christians are different. 1 Peter 2:12 encourages us, “Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.”

God does not need heroes; He needs servants. Our role is to be humble and faithful, allowing God to work through us to reach others. God qualifies the chosen, equipping us with what we need to fulfil His purposes. 2 Corinthians 3:5 reminds us, “Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.”

Wrapping up

In conclusion, the importance of winning people over winning arguments cannot be overstated. God calls us to approach others with humility and love, prioritizing relationships over debates. By being willing to lose an argument, we open the door to winning hearts and advancing God’s kingdom. Let us follow the example of Jesus, who humbled Himself and served others, and trust that God will work through our humble efforts to bring others to Him. Our goal is not to be heroes of the faith but humble servants who reflect Christ’s love in all we do.

In my journey of sharing the Gospel, I have learned that it is far more important to win people than to win arguments. God has shown me that it is okay to lose an argument, to humbly accept that others may have different opinions. This approach, rooted in humility and love, reflects the heart of Christ and fosters meaningful relationships and conversations. Winning hearts is God’s work; our role is to live as humble servants, demonstrating through our actions that Christians are different. I now find peace in knowing that I have done what I am called to do, trusting that God will use my humble efforts to draw others to Him. Let us remember that God does not need eloquent speakers, but humble hearts willing to serve and reflect His love. By embracing humility and focusing on winning people, we align ourselves with God’s greater purpose and allow His love to shine through us.

Joy of Rejection

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“Father God, please guide me as I write this article based on Your Word. Help me to write this to glorify You, and let Your words bring clarity to those who seek You. May Your truth help people discern and embrace correct beliefs. I pray and seek everything in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.”

Hi there my Brothers and Sisters in Christ! Rejection is not as bad as it sounds. It’s a common experience, one that even extends into the Christian community itself. The world, often judgmental of our past, can be harsh and unaccepting. Sometimes, the very people we believe love us are the ones who reject us when we decide to take up the cross and follow Christ. This can be deeply discouraging, but we should not lose heart. Instead, we should be encouraged, knowing that we are on the path to God. Rejection for Christ’s sake is a powerful affirmation of our faith and a step closer to the eternal glory He has promised.

Diving in

Rejection is often viewed as a bitter experience, filled with pain and disappointment. Yet, within the Christian faith, there lies a profound joy in rejection—a joy rooted in the knowledge that being rejected by the world aligns us with Christ and His suffering. The Bible teaches that rejection and persecution are not only inevitable but also a sign of our faithfulness to God. This article explores the joy of rejection, highlighting Biblical examples, and illustrating how the gains in God’s kingdom far surpass the losses we experience in the world.

Jesus and the Reality of Rejection

Jesus Christ, the Son of God, experienced profound rejection throughout His life and ministry. Despite His message of love and salvation, He was despised and rejected by many. Isaiah 53:3 prophesied about Jesus, saying, “He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain.” This rejection culminated in His crucifixion, where He was abandoned by His followers and scorned by the very people He came to save.

Jesus Himself warned His disciples about the inevitability of rejection. In John 15:18-20, He said, “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.” These words remind us that rejection is an integral part of the Christian journey.

The Joy in Rejection

While rejection is undoubtedly painful, there is a unique joy that comes from being rejected for Christ’s sake. This joy stems from the assurance that our suffering is not in vain but is part of God’s greater plan. In Matthew 5:10-12, Jesus said, “Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven.”

Rejection and persecution serve as affirmations of our faith and commitment to Christ. They remind us that we are following in His footsteps and that our ultimate reward lies not in this world but in the eternal kingdom of God. The Apostle Paul echoes this sentiment in Romans 8:18, saying, “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”

Persecution and the Early Church

The early Christians faced severe persecution, yet they found joy and strength in their trials. One notable example is the martyrdom of Stephen, the first Christian martyr. Stephen’s courageous testimony and subsequent stoning are recorded in Acts 7. His death marked the beginning of intense persecution against the early church, which paradoxically led to the spread of the Gospel.

Acts 8:1-4 describes how the persecution of Christians in Jerusalem scattered them throughout Judea and Samaria, leading to the expansion of the Christian faith. Among those affected by Stephen’s death was Saul, later known as the Apostle Paul. Saul witnessed Stephen’s martyrdom and initially participated in the persecution of Christians. However, Stephen’s faith and forgiveness left a lasting impact on Saul, contributing to his eventual conversion and becoming one of the most influential apostles.

The Joy in Persecution

Persecution, though painful, can bring about immense joy because it deepens our reliance on God and strengthens our faith. In 2 Corinthians 12:10, Paul writes, “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” Persecution strips away our self-reliance and draws us closer to God, who becomes our ultimate source of strength and comfort.

Moreover, persecution unites us with Christ in His suffering. Philippians 3:10-11 expresses this profound connection: “I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.” By sharing in Christ’s sufferings, we also share in His resurrection and glory.

The Eternal Perspective

Understanding the joy of rejection requires an eternal perspective. The pain and suffering we endure in this world are temporary, but the rewards in God’s kingdom are eternal. In 2 Corinthians 4:17-18, Paul encourages believers, saying, “For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

This eternal perspective transforms our understanding of rejection and persecution. It allows us to see beyond our immediate circumstances and recognize the greater purpose and glory that God has in store for us.

Wrapping up

The joy of rejection is a paradoxical but profound truth in the Christian faith. While rejection and persecution bring pain and suffering, they also bring joy and affirmation of our faith in Christ. Jesus Himself was rejected, and He warned us that we would face similar trials. However, He also promised that our reward in heaven would far surpass any suffering we endure on earth.

By embracing the joy of rejection, we align ourselves with Christ’s suffering and participate in His glory. We gain an eternal perspective that helps us endure present hardships with hope and joy. Let us, therefore, rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that they are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.

Being Judgemental

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“Father God, please guide me as I write this article based on Your Word. Help me to write this to glorify You, and let Your words bring clarity to those who seek You. May Your truth help people discern and embrace correct beliefs. I pray and seek everything in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.”

Hi there my Brothers and Sisters in Christ! For years, I struggled with a judgemental spirit towards others. I would look at people’s appearances, behaviours, and choices and quickly jump to conclusions about their character, motives, and standing before God. Little did I realize how toxic and damaging this tendency was – not just for my relationships, but for my own walk with Christ.

The truth is, being judgmental prevented me from loving others the way Jesus commands. 1 John 4:20 says “If someone says, ‘I love God,’ but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we have not seen?”

My judgmental attitudes were springing from a well of pride, self-righteousness, and self-centredness in my heart. I was so focused on appearing holy and blameless myself that I failed to see my own mountain of sin before God (Matthew 7:3-5). I looked at the speck in my brother’s eye while ignoring the plank in my own.

God’s Word is clear that we are not to judge others’ motives, consciences, or eternal destinies – that judgment belongs to Christ alone (Romans 14:4, 1 Corinthians 4:5). Jesus rebuked the religious leaders for judging by mere human standards and outward appearances (John 7:24). He calls us instead to “stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly” (John 7:24).

It’s important to distinguish being judgmental from using wise, Biblical discernment. We are called to discern truth from error, righteousness from sin (1 Thessalonians 5:21-22). But discernment should be based on Scripture, not our personal opinions or self-righteous standards. And even when discerning error, we must respond with grace, patience, and a heart to restore, not condemn (Galatians 6:1).

Being judgmental arises from a prideful heart that believes it has all the facts and the moral authority to render a verdict on someone’s life. But the truth is, only God can see the full reality of a person’s heart and circumstances (1 Samuel 16:7). To overcome judgmentalism, I had to learn humility – considering others as more important than myself and looking out for their interests, not just my own (Philippians 2:3-4).

I also had to learn to extend the same grace, mercy, and patience to others that God extends to me daily. Despite my flaws and failures, God is “merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness” (Exodus 34:6). Who am I to withhold that same compassion from fellow strugglers on the journey of faith? As I learned to see myself rightly before God as a hopeless sinner saved by sheer grace, it became far easier to have grace for others’ faults and weaknesses.

Being judgmental also blinded me to opportunities to show Christ’s love and share the gospel. I was so focused on mentally condemning people that I failed to see their human brokenness, pain, and deep spiritual needs. The religious leaders of Jesus’ day did the same thing, completely missing their Messiah because they were so fixated on judging him according to their own standards (John 8:15). No wonder Jesus said “Healthy people don’t need a doctor—sick people do. I have come to call sinners, not those who think they are already good enough” (Mark 2:17).

So what are some practical ways to combat being judgmental? Here are a few insights that have helped me:

  1. Pray for humility and love daily. Ask God to continually expose the sin and selfishness in your own heart so you can relate to others in true humility.
  2. When you start to judge someone, pause and remind yourself that you have only a tiny glimpse into their reality and struggles. Extend the benefit of the doubt.
  3. Focus on how you can show Christ’s love and grace, not on scrutinizing behaviors you deem unacceptable. Look for opportunities to minister, not criticize.
  4. Be quick to examine your own heart and motives before God. Am I really concerned about this person’s spiritual well-being, or am I just wanting to feel superior?
  5. Fill your mind with Scripture’s teachings on mercy, grace, humility, and loving others. Let verses like Romans 2:1 sink in: “You then have no excuse, you who judge someone else, for when you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things” (Romans 2:1).

As Jesus said, we must learn to be “as shrewd as serpents and as innocent as doves” (Matthew 10:16). Like Him, we must absolutely exercise godly discernment and discretion – but all while exemplifying the humble, grace-filled, loving character of our Lord who welcomes all who would come to Him for redemption.

Being judgmental was poisoning my witness and walk with Christ. It took retraining my mind and heart with humility, compassion, and extravagant grace for me to truly love others as Jesus commands. I’m still learning every day what it means to “make allowance for one another’s faults” and “clothe myself with patience” (Colossians 3:12-13). But by God’s grace, I’m walking in greater freedom to see others through His merciful eyes and perspective. Not as threats to judge, but as souls to love.

Jesus : Humane Human

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“Father God, please guide me as I write this article based on Your Word. Help me to write this to glorify You, and let Your words bring clarity to those who seek You. May Your truth help people discern and embrace correct beliefs. I pray and seek everything in the name of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.”

Hi there my Brothers and Sisters in Christ! I am writing about The Humanity of Christ. Usually I write and wait two or three days to post it live. This is the first time I wrote it without revising it.

Diving in

During my teenage years, I had many questions about God and Jesus. While my faith journey initially focused on understanding the divinity of Christ, life experiences gradually shifted my curiosity towards His humanity. The struggles, challenges, and pain I faced as a human being made me question how Jesus, as God, could truly understand my plight. However, a profound dream I had on May 22, 2024, dispelled my doubts about the humanity of Christ. This dream revealed to me the purpose and depth of Jesus’ humanity, helping me to see Him as the first person of the Trinity we encounter in our lives. It is this humanity that allows for an intimate connection with God, making Jesus not only relatable but also a perfect example of living a sinless life amidst human suffering.

The Struggle with Understanding Christ’s Humanity

As humans, we often grapple with the concept of divinity mingling with humanity. How could Jesus, being God, also be fully human? This question haunted me for years, especially when facing personal pain and challenges. It seemed impossible that a divine being could truly empathize with the human condition. However, my dream provided clarity that I had been seeking for so long.

In my dream, Jesus appeared as the most humane person I have ever encountered. His eyes radiated grace, but everything else about Him was strikingly human. He exhibited pain, helplessness, and desperation—emotions that are profoundly human. This experience was a turning point for me, affirming the humanity of Christ in a way that intellectual arguments and theological debates never could.

Jesus: The First Person of the Trinity We Experience

Jesus is often the first person of the Trinity that believers encounter in their faith journey. This makes sense because His humanity bridges the gap between us and the divine. As Hebrews 4:15 states, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin.” Jesus’ life on earth was marked by the same temptations, struggles, and pains that we experience, yet He remained sinless.

This connection is essential for fostering an intimate relationship with God. Knowing that Jesus experienced the full spectrum of human emotions and suffering reassures us that He understands our plight. His humanity makes Him approachable and relatable, allowing us to confide in Him with our deepest struggles.

The Purpose of Jesus’ Humanity

Jesus’ humanity serves a profound purpose in God’s redemptive plan. By becoming human, He demonstrated that it is possible to live a sinless life despite the challenges we face. Philippians 2:6-8 explains, “Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!”

Through His life and death, Jesus provided a perfect example for us to follow. He showed us that reliance on God, even in the face of immense suffering, is possible and fruitful. His humanity is a testament to God’s immense love for us—so much so that He was willing to endure human pain and suffering to save us.

Scriptural Affirmation of Christ’s Humanity

The Bible is replete with references to Jesus’ humanity. In John 1:14, we read, “The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.” This verse underscores the incarnation—God becoming flesh and living among us.

Moreover, Jesus’ experiences on earth reflect His humanity. He felt hunger (Matthew 4:2), thirst (John 19:28), fatigue (John 4:6), sorrow (John 11:35), and even agony (Luke 22:44). These instances reveal a Saviour who fully embraced human nature, sharing in our experiences and emotions.

Wrapping up

My journey from questioning the divinity of Christ to understanding His humanity has been transformative. The dream I had on May 22, 2024, played a pivotal role in resolving my doubts and deepening my faith. It revealed Jesus as the most humane human I have ever seen, a being who, despite His divinity, embraced humanity in its entirety. His eyes, filled with grace, reflected His divine nature, but His pain, helplessness, and desperation were profoundly human.

Jesus is the first person of the Trinity we experience because His humanity makes Him relatable and approachable. His life on earth serves as a model for us, demonstrating that living a sinless life is possible even amidst suffering. By understanding and embracing the humanity of Christ, we draw closer to Him, fostering a more intimate relationship with God. Jesus, in His humanity, proved that He can understand our struggles and walk with us through them. As Hebrews 2:17-18 reminds us, “For this reason he had to be made like them, fully human in every way, in order that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God, and that he might make atonement for the sins of the people. Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.” Through His humanity, Jesus not only empathizes with our suffering but also guides us towards a life of righteousness and closeness with God.